来源：夏日菜谱 时间： 2019-04-15
everybody will have failure.the failure is a successful mother, if there is no failure, that will not have results to show an achievement.really, the successful man is very happy, they own fresh flowers, applause.but the person, who fail, own of only have lonesome with unfrequented.in fact, we should go to more honorific is those person of[with] failures.because, there is failure, just have results to show an achievement.
fail don't mean you is a for failed, fail to just mean you haven't succeeded; fail don't mean you a have no become, fail to mean you get experience; fail don't mean you are a stupid person who don't know to improvise, failing to mean you have attic faith; fail don't mean you have to has been suppressing not and quickly, failing to mean you take pleasure in trying.......
this is the failure, precious failure.
失败并不表示你是一为失败者,失败只是表示你尚未成功; 失败并不表示你一无所成,失败表示你得到经验; 失败并不表示你是一个不知变通的蠢人,失败表示你有坚定的信念; 失败并不表示你必须一直压抑不快,失败表示你乐意尝试.......
There are failures and there are Failures, but the differences between bankruptcy and financial diminishment, divorce and marital strife, spiritual crisis and anomie are distinctions of degree, not kind. And they are connected. Woe in one sphere strains the seams of others. It's not pretty. And that's why failure is something you wouldn't wish on your least agreeable relative.
Or would you?
A theory is gaining momentum that looks at failure differently. Failure, it says, is at worst a mixed blessing: It hurts, but can pay off in the form of learning and growth and wisdom. Some psychologists, like the University of Virginia's Jonathan Haidt, go even further, arguing that adversity, setbacks, and even trauma may actually be necessary for people to be happy, successful, and fulfilled. "Post-traumatic growth," it's sometimes called. Its observers are building a solid foundation under the anecdotes ab呼和浩特癫痫医院哪家好out wildly successful people who credit their accomplishments to earlier failures that pushed them to the edge of the abyss.
We do know that learning is error-driven—probably as a result of the brain trying to be efficient. Failures grab our attention. So many things happen the way we expect them to that mistakes register disproportionately. We're forced to integrate that new information. Researchers have found that the more wildly wrong our prediction was, the quicker we learn. The brain, you might say, feeds on failure. We are acutely sensitive to negative feedback, and this "negativity bias" drives learning, at least from teenagehood on up.
We all make mistakes which are inevitable. What is worse is failure to correct own mistakes. While making mistakes is good, repeating mistakes is definitely not. Apart from correcting your own mistakes, we should learn from the mistakes.
You can only learn from a mistake after you admit you have made one. As soon as you start blaming other people, you distance yourself from any possible lesson that could be learned fro南京治癫痫病医院m it. But if you courageously stand up and honestly say "This is my mistake and I am responsible", the possibilities for learning will move towards you. Admission of a mistake, even if only privately to yourself, makes learning possible by moving the focus away from blaming yourself and towards understanding. Wise people admit their mistakes easily. They know progress accelerates when they do. On the other hand, for many reasons admitting mistakes is difficult. This is why some people consider that they can learn nothing from mistakes, We are taught in school, in our families, or at work to feel guilty about failure and to do whatever we can to avoid mistakes. This sense of shame combined with the inevitability of setbacks when attempting difficult things explains why many people give up on heir goals: they are not prepared for the mistakes and failures they will face on their way to what they want.
In conclusion, we can and should learn good lessons from past mistakes in order to be more successful in our private and public lives.
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